Forgot what we were talking about
Absent-mindedness, forgetfulness, or brain farts, whatever you call it, we all have these moments. We tend to think that our brains are withering away with age but “drawing a blank” may actually be associated with a region of our brain experiencing growth. The Wall Street Journal article linked below explains why these moments might allow us to block peripheral thoughts and be more focused and creative.
https://www.wsj.com/articles/forgive-yourself-for-that-thing-you-forgot-11548169275
Recovery Now reminds you to bring a fine-tooth comb
We are bombarded with overwhelming amounts of information throughout the day. In the past 2-3 years, misinformation has been wide-reaching on social media platforms. Fake news entered our everyday lexicon and began occupying at least some part of our cognitive bandwidth. Much of the fake news is easy to identify and reject. Most of us are pretty sure that congress doesn’t plan to launch a nuclear bomb at the sun, but even the most discerning of us have fallen victim to misinformation or have at least been perplexed by a thoroughly crafted news story from what appears to be a credible news source. The Psychology Today article linked below discusses why biases and faulty thinking we experience could make us more susceptible to accept fake news.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/thoughts-thinking/201902/4-outcomes-lazy-thinking
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Men’s issues are as valid as women’s issues, but until recently they have received little attention from the media or public policy. This page is intended as an introduction to men’s issues, which are part of the broader men’s movement.
First of all, it is important to realize that most people in the men’s movement aren’t interested in pushing women into subservience. While their approaches may vary, most men’s advocates are interested in addressing the disparities that have increasingly affected men and boys in (mostly) Western nations since the late 1960s. This is an essential part of achieving gender fairness for both sexes.
Second, the men’s movement is not just a concern of white men, or just of straight men. Men’s issues affect all men and boys, regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, sexual orientation or socioeconomic status.
The men’s movement exists because men and boys are at a disadvantage in several important areas in today’s politically correct social structure. Laws and conventions originally intended to encourage equal rights for women have evolved into special privileges without responsibility for women and an elevated status for women only. This is taking place against a backdrop of misandry (hatred of men) in society. The result has been serious harm to many areas of society, such as family structure, education, and social services programs. Ironically, this has had a negative impact on women in general, and on children in particular.
The various roles man have in society as well as and in the family has led to certain pressures that are unique to Men. Unrealistic expectations of Men’s bodies and impossible standards for a man’s multiple roles as mother, wife, care-taker and career man as well as unachievable goals for work life balance can lead to a man’s diminished sense of self. Fortunately, psychotherapy helps to challenge these negative distortions and help to form a realistic and accurate sense of self. We can help empower you to take control of your life, balance your needs and wants with the expectations of others in order to start living the life you want to live.
This is a common fear for Men seeking therapy to work on their own personal issues but actually the opposite is more common. If you are suffering silently without seeking help, this struggle is inevitably going to affect your family. Though getting help will take some time away from your family, that time is extremely valuable to you, them, and your relationship. By seeking help and focusing on improving your own issues you are much more able to show love and support to your family.
If so you may be involved in a codependent relationship. This is a relationship where one sacrifices their own wants, needs, hopes and desires for the sake of another individual. So much so that they actually experience a loss of a sense of self. This can happen in any friendship, romantic relationship or parent-child relationship.
Codependency may be present in any dysfunctional relationship; not only those where alcohol/drugs are present.
There are many factors to consider and everyone is unique. Some common possibilities are:
Your own family of origin concerns and concerns about your loved one are an important part of your recovery. In addition, the possibility exists your children could continue the cycle of codependence and/or you may find another codependent relationship if you left this one.
Unfortunately, you too have been affected by your loved one’s problem and require your own support and assistance. Without your own help and support, you may continue to have feelings of anger, frustration, betrayal & lack of self-worth. Everyone in the family needs help to recover from the long-ranging effects of substance use. Consider getting help for you and your family. Without the proper treatment, even if you left this relationship, you may find another codependent relationship.
“Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even though the people we love are not ready to change. We let them go and let ourselves grow.“
– The Language of Letting Go
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